Speak Wisely…

Proverbs 12:18 “The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”


  1. Bible
  2. Toothpaste
  3. Plate
  4. String / Yarn
  5. Band Aid
  6. Coloring Materials
  7. Activity page (Download here: Proverbs 12:18 Activity )
  8. Glue

Proverbs 12:18 can be summed up in one word – WORDS. A lot is at stake with what we say and even how we say it. The words we use gives a lot of weight in our day-to-day conversations. This has been an ongoing matter with our kids. The kids including us, parents, sometimes say words without regard to the other person. We addressed this issue with Scriptures.

Toothpaste as WordsWe asked Caleb to open us in prayer and read the verse altogether. To explain the verse, we used a tube of toothpaste to represent our words. We all know that toothpaste is used to clean our teeth and keep our oral cavity healthy. Words are the same way. When wise and edifying words are said, it gives healthy encouragement and healing to the other person.

This time, we wanted to illustrate what reckless words can do when spoken. We asked them to squeeze the toothpaste on the plate. They enjoyed this part! Reckless Word

The result –  A MESS! Toothpaste Activity

They could have made a bigger mess if we didn’t stop them. If we are not careful with our words, it would really make a mess to those we spoke with. Like what the Bible says, it will hurt others like a sword.

Intermission: Zara’s little messKid's Mess

Toothpaste on Plate

Now, we asked them to do the impossible. Try to put back the toothpaste inside the tube. They tried but to no avail. Like any reckless word spoken, it is impossible to take it back. Once said, it is said. Even if we say sorry, we already pierced the heart of another like a sword.

As quoted from Jon Bloom’s Fill Your Mouth with Life, Not Death

People die because of something said. Tongues can be weapons of mass destruction, launching holocausts and wars. Tongues can also be the death of marriages, families, friendships, churches, careers, hopes, understanding, reputations, missionary efforts, and governments.

But people also live because of something said. The tongue can be “a tree of life” (Proverbs 15:4). Tongues reconcile peoples and make peace. “Blessed are the peacemakers” (Matthew 5:9). Tongues can make marriages sweet, families strong, and churches healthy. Tongues can give hope to the despairing, advance understanding, and spread the gospel.

So what will come out of your mouth today, death or life? “Sword thrusts” or “healing” (Proverbs 12:18)?”

Band Aid on Paper

To help them remember Proverbs 12:18, we supported it with an activity sheet. (Please feel free to download and print the PDF file if you wish to use it.) In the activity sheet, they need to glue the string on top of the “tube of words” and the band aid below the tube. The string represented the mess of our reckless words while the Band Aid represented the healing it brings when we speak wisely.

While they were doing the activity, we did a heart check. We asked them to share an incident they can remember when they spoke wisely and when they spoke recklessly. We also asked them to share the result of both incidents.

Zoe shared that when we say nice words it will really make people happy. Caleb shared that when we say reckless words, it will break hearts. Their activity sheets are now posted on the wall of their rooms to remind them to speak life and not death.

I also encourage parents to practice what we teach. We should be careful with the words we speak to them. Let us pray that we will speak words of wisdom to encourage our kids to do the same. It starts with us.