Build the Wall of Self Control

So here goes how we did our Family Devotions for Proverbs 25:28 “Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.”


  1. Bible
  2. Printed copy of Proverbs 25:28
  3. Building blocks
  4. Dinosaur or anything that can signify destruction
  5. Weekly reward chart

First and most importantly, we dedicated our Family Devotional to the Lord through prayer. We asked our eldest son, Caleb to read Proverbs 25:28. Since the verse contains figurative language we had to be creative so they will understand. We asked them to build a wall using their building blocks to protect their other toys from the dinosaur who will try to break the wall. Well, my two year old decided to be the dinosaur and she did a good job! Haha!

Kids playing with Lego

This was to illustrate what happens when we don’t have self-control. The wall represents self-control. The dinosaur, Zara, represents situations that can easily make us loose control. When we allow those walls to be broken down, we loose our guard, thus leaving us unprotected. Through this illustration, the kids understood the verse clearly.

If there was one thing we realized in our family devotions, we need to be humble and honest with our kids about our own weaknesses. Parents usually have the idea that we have to show them that we are perfect and strong or else they won’t respect us but that would just shy our kids away from sharing their own weaknesses and struggles. They need to know that their parents are no different from them, in need of God’s grace and strength to obey Him. Admitting our struggles to them will not make them disrespect us, instead we will earn their trust.

After the activity, we did a self check as to what things we need to control ourselves from. If we don’t control ourselves from these things, we allow those walls to be broken down – leading us to sin against God and be unprotected. My husband started with admitting he needed to control his food intake. That goes for me too! Haha! I shared to them that I realized I needed to control using my phone when they are around. What amazed us is how they responded. Caleb said that he needed to control his desire to use the tab and cellphone and his playing rough. Zoe said she needed to control being a cry baby.

As a supplementary activity, we did a simple game. The “READY-GET SET-GO” game. The trick here is that they should do what they are told to do only when the word GO is said. They had to control the urgency to do a certain task until GO is said.

We ended with each one of us praying for ourselves because it is only God who can enable us to control ourselves from doing the things that will displease Him.

Self control also involves a lot of discipline. For them to remember our family devotions daily, we supported it with certain tasks that they had to do on a daily basis. For us to track their progress, we gave them a weekly reward chart. For every finished tasked, they drew a star on its designated box. At the end of the week, they get a reward. The reward doesn’t have to be material. It can be a simple hug and kiss. That was actually what they asked for. Of course, we gave them a little something more.

Kids Reward Chart

Below is the weekly chart we used. Feel free to copy or download it.

Kids Weekly Reward Chart